Self Care is one of the new goals I have set for myself. I’m kinda figuring it out as I go.
Yea, mani & pedis are nice (not like I get much of those lol) and massages, too. Who doesn’t love a new outfit?
But really, it is so much more than that. Although, when we do any of the above mentioned we are spending time on ourselves, and we may feel that we are taking care of ourselves, BUT are we missing an opportunity for something we really need though? What could we be doing with our time alone instead of “pampering?” Some quiet time? A change of scenery? A chance for deep prayer? A time to force ourselves not to think about any negative and recognize we cannot control or solve everything? These things could also be viewed as pampering. I suppose it’s a balance of the mind, body and soul. While my body could always use some pampering, I think the mind and soul are more of what I need to stay sane.
I have started trying to give my worries to God rather than drowning in them. Worry and anxiety stepped into my life in such a way, it had began to rule me. God doesn’t want that for me, or any of us! I was letting it happen though, not him. My Mom’s Bible Study group is reading “How to have a Mary heart in a Martha world,” and that has really been helping me to realize some things about myself. Pray more, Worry Less- Philippians 4:6. (I’m buying the T-SHIRT or making it, lol). It seems simple, but it takes some changing. Changing of habits, a change of perspective, and so on.
Another thing I finally did was take a personal day. Just me. Mom life is constant. While I love my mini and being her mama, I felt exhausted and nearly burnt out. I found myself extremely irritable and inpatient. It may not have been super obvious, (not all the time anyway- not a perfect person right here) but I could feel myself boiling so much that my pot was overflowing. So I did it, I went to the beach and it was great. I had a simple and delicious lunch, alone, as I chewed each bite slowly and sipped on a freshly made cappuccino. Even being away from my family for the day, I could not clear my thoughts of them completely– so still partial mom-mode. The point is, I was away. I took a day for me and they are fine.
I could feel the positive effects of my mama day off. I returned home calm and to hear of a great day at the zoo. The next day I was able to stop myself from feeling frustrated. This is a work in progress though, y’all. Sunday night was a little rough, I got emotional; however, I got through it. A day away certainly helped me to take a moment to reflect and realize (even more) I need to be taking better care of my mind and soul- the body too, yes.
I encourage all my fellow mamas out there to do this too! And all ladies alike. We’ve all heard it before take care of yourself so that you can take care of others, but it really is true. Until you make it happen you don’t realize how much you may have been neglecting yourself. And ladies, if you want a pedicure that DOES count, my point is though that it’s not just what’s on the outside. If our insides are rotting, the outside will eventually show in some ways- whether or not our toe nails have been polished.
LaLaLOVE La Casa Del Pane Italian Bakery in St. Pete Beach. Cannot pass this place whenever I am nearby.